Your Unique Advantage

The greatest advantage that you have in winning friends, propelling your career or business, and succeeding at anything you want in your life is recognizing that you’re a uniquely special person.

There is value in being you.  The goal is for you to discover it and extend your value to the world.

This mindset principle will give an accelerated advantage once you recognize your value and own it.

USP means Unique Special Person, also known to many as Unique Selling Position.  USP is knowing your value and how you differ from others in the universe.

My friends jokingly tell me, “Girl you are special.”  Figuratively speaking I am crazy, different, out of this world psycho, and I should probably take something to cure this issue soon.

One thing for certain I can own my crazy and I am special.

There have been countless times within my life where I seriously tried to conform to what most consider the norm.  Honestly, I can’t recall a time when I fit in with the crowd or mold of uniformity.  I took swimming lessons in the 4th grade at the YMCA and of course I had the coolest hairstyle ever the “Wave Nuvo”  and my mother made me wear a swim cap to protect my curl.  I can’t claim that was my idea, but it sure was an indicator that I was fly.  Now curly hair is the new norm.

Millions of women are paying to get their lips injected with chemicals to make them more beautiful.  I spent the majority of my childhood being ridiculed for having big lips.  It wasn’t until I realized in middle school my lips weren’t “soup coolers” and although my exploratory band teacher advised I play the saxophone instead of the flute I knew my lips were beautiful. It wasn’t easy but I had to discover early on how to maneuver past these negative comments and be confident in my unique beauty.

Do you recall the story of the Little Red Riding Hood?  Little Red Riding Hood kept reminding the wolf that everything about him was big.  I turned into the big bad wolf at school.  One day in band class this little boy reminded me that I had big lips, I leaned in real close to him and said, “The better to kiss you with my darling.”  You best believe he never said anything else to me.  I believe that was the day I stood up for my uniqueness.

What was wrong with me? I have asked myself this question on numerous occasions from childhood to adulthood.

This post isn’t a therapy session to cure childhood bullying.  I am certain, there are a lot of kids and adults who need to be healed from the scars of believing uniqueness is a curse.

Once you discover that your uniqueness is the transporter of your power you will care less what others believe about you and more about how you see yourself.

It’s Your Advantage

Your unique has a way of making things happen.  When you know what value you offer to others, you begin to create freedom for yourself.  This advantage will create doors of opportunity.  It requires a change in your mindset. As a result, the universe will deliver your goals, money, and happiness at a greater speed.

Your unique is an investment in discovering the authentic core of your being.  The truth is you will never master yourself because you are always evolving.  Unlocking your unique is the key to greater purpose, self, and connectivity to the world.   It requires constant self-analysis, truth, and testing. The advantage to unlocking your unique is the key to a much greater purpose, self, and connectivity to the world.  The question to ask yourself,  What is my unique and how will it make the world a better place?

Allow the journey to begin….

Become a Trailblazer

I have been a trailblazer all my life.  If it is to be tried and tested believe me I did it.  For the past nine years, I have taken the road less traveled to live a purpose driven life.  The mold of a 9-5 just didn’t fit my being.  So I set off on this journey of entrepreneurship, self-discovery, and walking by faith.  It really does take a unique person to forfeit a bi-weekly check to be who they were born to be.  I am a true believer that your gifts/talents will make room for you.  I landed $60,000 dollars in scholarships/grants while in college, went from a girl with a big mouth to landing lucrative speaking engagements, and accelerated my goals by developing a business network.  None of this was possible because I followed the path most take; it happened because I traveled the road most won’t.

Stop Comparing Your Unique

When I first started my speaking journey with a platform by the name of “BE. A.- U (be enthused about you)” pronounced in Be A You. No one could tell me that wasn’t my platform.  It was as though God himself came down to tell me to preach the gospel of Be You.

As a trailblazer, you don’t have a guide, a roadmap, or anything you are the leader.  It’s trial and error. In the early 90’s Facebook, Instagram, nor Twitter exist.  To me this was the greatest time of my life, I had nothing to compare myself against, I simply took action.

Stop Sabotaging Your Unique

Did Mary Mary just publish a book called, “Be You?”  Did Dove create a campaign for young girls called “Be You?”  Is that life coach or speaker talking about Be You? The Internet became my worse enemy.  I become distracted by the Internet looking to see who was doing what.  The comparison and self-criticism resulted in me slowing my pace and believing that my concept was not valuable.   After spending countless hours scrolling the pages of others; my vision halted and my confidence plateaued.

Your Unique Won’t Go Away

I made a huge mistake five years ago to not speak to the Be-A-U platform. The world didn’t need to hear from me they had Dove commercials, retailers, and famous people marketing “Be You” on a much larger scale.  I didn’t use this a confirmation that I was on the right track, but instead I self-sabotaged my uniqueness. It was my unique flair that made me different and no other person would be able to present “my unique” like I could.  To this day my friends and the workshop participates remind me of Be-A-U and how it impacted them.  It’s funny how nine years later I meet Be-A-U again.

Your gift/talent, platform, and life story comes from an authentic place within you. -Sunny

You are not flawless – Be honest!!

Face it!  We all have flaws and we are not perfect.  Yet we try to hide our imperfections.  Grow from your experiences and move on.  There is no need to hide behind your flaw.  Don’t feel embarrassed or insecure about any aspect of who you are.  No matter if you are physically or emotionally different then you must transfer your so-called flaws into individualistic style!

Be Original Everyone else is taken…

Be willing to be the first and stand out in a crowd or be willing to be the last.  You may walk with a limp, dance off beat, speak loud, have a beautiful smile, create beautiful artwork, or simply do things differently; that is perfectly okay.

Believe In You!

You are designed with as an original recipe. That means that no other person can be you!  The secret to an original recipe is that no one knows the recipe like you do. That means you are unique in your own way. You must go into the world as your true self.

Take Action:

Create Your Unique Advantage by answering these questions.  Let’s discuss by scheduling your initial strategy session.  

Step 1:  Focus on Your Dream

  • What are your dreams?  
  • What do you believe is your purpose?
  • How will it better the universe?
  • Who will it help?
  • What problem will it solve?
  • What makes you not sleep at night?
  • Why do you want to do it?  

Step 2:  Stay true to your Identity

  • Trust your heart 
  • Trust your intuition
  • Be who you were born to be
  • What can you offer that only you can do

Step 3:  Determine Your Worth

  • What are your non-negotiables
  • Know your strengths
  • What are your beliefs and values
  • What lies about yourself do you need to rid

 

Originality is expressing oneself and a fresh new original independent and individual manner the state of being authentic. -Sunny

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(1) Schedule Your Initial Strategy Session

First visit, www.sunnyjordan.com/schedule and pick a time that works best for you. Let me know the top 2 or 3 questions or topics you want to discuss during our call.

(2) Next, we will meet at the scheduled time. I’ll listen to what you want to accomplish, and together we’ll come up with a plan of action.

(3) Then, you’ll ask to work with me as your coach or decide to go it alone. Either way, you’ll have greater clarity, focus and your first steps to success.

Go ahead, schedule your initial strategy session now. Make it the next thing you do. I look forward to our conversation.

-Sunny

 

5 Steps to Living a Bolder Life

Have you ever had one of those days when you sit and look at the computer dumbfounded?

You have a zillion projects to do yet your eyes and your thoughts are frozen in time.

You begin to fret because the clock shows that half of the day is gone.

Everything seems to be moving swiftly but you.

What is going on?

Why are you thinking this way?

You probably have more than enough on your plate.

You are constantly struggling with what to do next and worrying about tomorrow.

Obviously you are not the first person who had to deal with this issue because there are thousands of self-help books in the store.

However, you still feel as though you aren’t doing enough.

You feel as though you are not good enough. You begin to wonder when it will be over.

The feelings of doubt arise in your mind and you heart beat is racing.

You cannot control your emotions, and you begin to want to quit. You do not believe in yourself anymore, if you even believed in the first place.

What do you do at this point?

It is time to take your life back?  It is time to live a bolder life.

How do you begin to do this?  Acknowledge that your story is about you and it begins with your thoughts and your expectations for yourself.

Whatever you are facing at this moment is essential to your story!

 Every story has a beginning, middle, and an end. Do not allow your end to be your beginning.

Today, I challenge you to take 5 Steps to Living a Bold Life.

1. Start Now– I know you have heard this before, but you must start today with loving yourself. Nothing is more frustrating than giving your best to everyone and nothing to give to yourself. I encourage you today to start taking better care of your health.

  • Exercise is essential for the mind, the body, and the soul. Start eating healthier meals. A balance diet stimulates your brain.
  • In the morning take 20 minutes for yourself to meditate on where you want your life to go that day. Did you know that you have maximum control of what happens to you on a daily? What do you allow to waste your time? Who is stealing all your energy with their mess?
  • Start today learning to love every aspect of you. If you find this difficult begin to zone into at least one special thing you like about you. Then state your love for yourself daily. Stating love for yourself daily will eliminate self-doubt and add value to your self-worth

2. Take Risks-  When was the last time you did something different?

Are you a person who takes the same route home from work every day?

Do you strictly only eat chicken when the menu selections include shrimp, salmon and vegetables?

How far are you stretching yourself? Take the risk to try something new at least once a week and build up daily. Take the risk to say “No” to a request. Then embrace the sensation of respecting your time. That is right every moment adds up to spending time with you or doing something you love that will increase happiness within.

3. Elevate others- Do you attend daily pity parties? If you tend to live your life as a soap opera people will avoid you. They see you as an open book; one with large amounts of drama. I encourage you today to forget about your stress.

Do some volunteer work throughout the month. Yes it is another task, but it is very fulfilling and will often ease your mind of your problems. Volunteering allows you to decrease the desire to participate in your own pity party. By elevating others you begin to develop passion, desire, and hope.

4. Position Yourself– To gain inner success you must be prepared. Every day you need to read affirmations and begin to state them. This form of reinforcement helps you prepare and position for that days experiences. When you are up against the wall due to a deadline or simply pressures of the world you will become prepared to respond to what comes up against you.

Your response to situations determines the outcome.

When you are caught off guard by others, you are not prepared to handle negativity, frustration, or problems. Instead when you position yourself, your mind becomes a magnet for positivity. You will know how to maneuver from those distractions that keep you stressed.

5. Stay Focused– First you have to be focused on what you want to accomplish. Focus on getting it done no matter what. Listen to the needs of your body, mind and soul; as they dictate your future outcomes. Remember inner peace requires time.

The great thing about time is that it is continuous and never ending. When you are asleep at night time keeps moving. Therefore, as long as you have breathe and have a pulse you can do whatever you desire.

You will not find success in the destination but success is found in the journey.

Take action right now to write 3 action steps that you will take to live bolder?

I look forward to reading and empowering you to consistent action….

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First visit, www.sunnyjordan.com/schedule and pick a time that works best for you. Let me know the top 2 or 3 questions or topics you want to discuss during our call.

(2) Next, we will meet at the scheduled time. I’ll listen to what you want to accomplish, and together we’ll come up with a plan of action.

(3) Then, you’ll ask to work with me as your coach or decide to go it alone. Either way you’ll have greater clarity, focus and your first steps to success.

Go ahead, schedule your initial strategy session now. Make it the next thing you do. I look forward to our conversation.

-Sunny

5 Keys to Manifest Your Vision Faster

Your vision could manifest faster if only you could meet the right person…

Allow me to share a quick story of how I discovered that people want you to succeed just as much as you.

The only catch is you have to connect with the right people, do what you say you are going to do, and be ready.

#1 Know what you have to offer

In 2011, I self-published my first book, Learn How I Made a Fortune While in College.

Prior to self-publishing, I carried my book manuscript everywhere I went.

I wasn’t trying to shove my book down everyone’s throat.  I simply wanted to be at the right place, at the right time, and with the right people.

The biggest obstacle I faced was marketing and the cost of publishing.

A local interior designer within my network was showcasing a renovated mountain house three hours away from Charlotte, NC and invited my family as her guest.

Of course, I said yes.

Food, travel, and people. I wasn’t going to pass this opportunity up.

We loaded the car:  Baby bag, check! Camera,check! and let’s not forget my book manuscript.

Take Action:  Write down your business services and offerings, along with three benefits that will add value to potential clients.  

#2 You Gotta be at the right place at the right time with the right people

I had no clue who would be there but being prepared and ready for the right connection was all I knew.    I have said time and time again you never know who you will meet and how your meeting could change your life forever.  So with high expectations, I set off to the mountains.

Take Action:  Be strategic when planning your next networking event or connection opportunity.

I believe there is a connection in every meeting.

#3  Don’t Make a Pre-judgement

Are you kidding me … These little well-kept women from the local neighborhood hadn’t been to college in well over 30+years.

I figured these ladies simply were there to be nosey and to eat.   I had already decided that there was no connection to be made at this event.

After loss hope, the front door opened and in walked a tall slender white male with a humble smile.  At that moment I knew this person was my divine appointment.   I slid through the bodies of conversation that were in pockets throughout the living space.

As he turned his back to walk out, I screamed his name, John.

Take Action:  Write down the last time you pre-judged someone because they didn’t look, act, or think like you?   Then estimate the cost of lost opportunity.  

Example:  The matured crowd of people at the event had grand-children, nieces, nephews, friends, family, and co-workers within their network.  I pre-judged the situation I lost out on $15/per book.  I am certain as I look back, there were probably at least 15 pre-orders right in front of me.    

#4 Make the Connection

We stood there and talked for an hour.  It was like I knew him and he knew me.  He looked over my book manuscript.

We finished the conversation that felt like a lifetime of friendship.  John said, “Shauntae if there is anything I can do for you I am only a call away.”

Take Action:  Find something you have in common with the person you are connecting with.  I challenge you to begin to ask discovery questions to find out more about them and connect to their story.  

Example:  John cared more about me as a person than my book.  We connected on a more personable level at the heart.  For that moment in time, we became transparent about our hopes and dreams.  I learned about his wishes and disappointments within his career and life.

There must be substance in the conversation.

#5 Follow-up & Follow-Through

It wasn’t enough that I met John on that weekend.  The most important part the connection was the follow-through.  John requested we stay connected through email and weekly updates of my progress of self-publishing.

Within less than three months my book designed, edited, laid out, and ready to be printed.  I called John with excitement, the book was completed.  What I didn’t know is that John was observing my follow-thru and commitment to my vision.

Many people want to see us do well and they want to support us.  John was checking to see if I was trustworthy and sticking to my word.  The weekly updates held me accountable.  In return, John sponsored the first printof my book, Learn How I Made a Fortune While in College.  

Take Action:  Develop a system of follow-up with the persons you meet. Create an e-mail that shows you were ecstatic about meeting them, that you would love to stay in contact, and remind them of something that really resonated with you in the conversation. 

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First visit, www.sunnyjordan.com/schedule and pick a time that works best for you. Let me know the top 2 or 3 questions or topics you want to discuss during our call.

(2) Next, we will meet at the scheduled time. I’ll listen to what you want to accomplish, and together we’ll come up with a plan of action.

(3) Then, you’ll ask to work with me as your coach or decide to go it alone. Either way you’ll have greater clarity, focus and your first steps to success.

Go ahead, schedule your initial strategy session now. Make it the next thing you do. I look forward to our conversation.

Gain Quicker Results By Helping Someone First

Be the Key:

1.  Create a list of your skills

2.  Be willing to give your skills

3.  Listen for opportunities

4.  Be the solution to the problem

5.  Be willing to refer when you aren’t qualified

It’s time for you to connect to everything you want in life.  Guess what you don’t have to do it alone.

That’s right… this journey of purpose and life isn’t just about doing it solo.

It is about partnering with the right network of people … that I call “Super-Friends” that will connect you to everything you want in life, money, love, and happiness.

The power of connecting two or more people has been proven to obtain quicker results and productivity.

When establishing relationships forget the old mindset of me, myself, and I.

Begin to establish relationships that serve, connect, and are authentic!

Don’t expect the doors to be open to you by someone else.  Instead allow them to help you find the door, build the door, or construct the door!  You to must bring key skills, finances, and ideas that will be the key to cooperative super living.

We all must live our best lives together for a mutual benefit.

Let’s use #100superfriends for challenge….

All you need to do is Tweet me @thesunnyjordan to join the 100 Super-friend challenge.

What did you like best about this post? Let me and others know. Leave a comment below and share this post with others.

(1) Schedule Your Initial Strategy Session

First visit, www.sunnyjordan.com/schedule and pick a time that works best for you. Let me know the top 2 or 3 questions or topics you want to discuss during our call.

(2) Next, we will meet at the scheduled time. I’ll listen to what you want to accomplish, and together we’ll come up with a plan of action.

(3) Then, you’ll ask to work with me as your coach or decide to go it alone. Either way, you’ll have greater clarity, focus and your first steps to success.

Go ahead, schedule your initial strategy session now. Make it the next thing you do. I look forward to our conversation.